Top left..cousin Billy, Brother Bob, cousin, Kenny, his wife, Judy and me.
My uncles..Top.. Jack, Charlie, Don.. bottom..Ken, Bill, Jiggs.
Bob and Darlene's house where we got married.
MY FAMILY.
I guess it’s time to start talking about the rest of my family members.
AAAH, my older brother Bob, who I’ve mostly covered. Bob was 5 years older than I was so we didn’t hang around a lot together as kids. Bob was born with some foot problems that I think kept him from playing sports…but it did keep him out of the service. Later in life he enjoyed playing golf and I guess he was pretty good at it.
Bob was a little like his uncle Pete…a grumpy old sucker who had a fine sense of humor…I loved being around him. Bob was an extremely gifted person that was well known and respected in the radio control airplane community, designing, building and flying his planes. He was also a fine craftsman as a printer and with his wife established a good printing business. An avid sailor, Bob, Darlene and the kids Joey and Stevie enjoyed the time they spent on their boat “Gandolph”. He had good taste in wives because he married a good’n…they were great together and she was a big help in their business. They had 3 sons, sadly losing one to Cancer at around 6 - 8 years of age. It was heart wrenching to see what that disease was doing to little Bobbie. When the pain would start Darlene could see it and would quietly ask him to go to his room, after a few minutes she’d excuse herself and go to his room to console him. Darlene is an incredibly strong person, if the opportunity to pick a sister came up I’d definitely have picked her. I was certainly glad to have the opportunity of spending time with BOB as adults. He was fun to be around….moving to Nevada and then Arizona didn’t help with the visits but I tried to keep in touch by phone….I miss that.
Ron….What can I say about Ronnie...having two years between us means that your brothers but you don’t really spend much time together. It wasn’t until we both got out of the service and were working on the super modified pit crew that we spent much time together. I quit drinking so we didn’t have a lot in common after 1968. It kills me to not have had any way to help him with his “DEMONS”.
As a youth Ron was a pretty good athlete….playing football and on the track team competing with the Pole Vault. Ron also seemed to enjoy a good fight now and then.
After we both got married and had knocked down a few ‘Cool ones”, he told me that he always wanted to know if he could take me in a fight. We were at a cousin’s apartment and went to the garden area in the middle….the manager came out to find out what was going on and Ron decked him…the police came and the manager said that I was the one who did it…. so they threw me into the police car, much to Ron’s delight. Since I had no record, and the guy wasn’t 100% positive about my guilt, they let me go….there are many stories that I could tell of the times that Ron got me into problems but I think that we needn’t go into anymore. Joey, Stevie and Jack and I spent a day trying to find him on the streets around the Boardwalk a few years back. to no avail.
Since my earliest memories I think that I spent the most time with Pete, Ina Lee, Billy and Dotti. What great memories I have of growing up with that family. Pete was from what, I heard a pretty fair baseball pitcher that would have had a career had it not been for an injury to his arm. Because of his love for baseball he stayed close to the game by becoming an umpire in the California league…after that he worked at the San Jose municipal stadium as an usher…he would get us into the games and I would get a kick out of him sitting with 5 or 6 of his cronies during the game talking of old experiences that they had had. He was always fun to be around.
Ina Lee was the “Character” in the family she was pretty gullible and fun to tease. She suffered from chronic pack problems and was certainly in a lot of pain, but still loved to laugh.
Pete was about 10 years older than Ina Lee and treated her with the utmost kindness and love. After Pete passed away he was cremated…. Billy and Dotti put his remains in their garage I think next to the salad bowls…occasionally Ina lee would say “Sometimes I feel like Pete is here close by”, giving everyone a chuckle. Ina Lee was kinda like a second Mother to me. Billy was 4 or 5 years younger than I and I sure enjoyed teasing him…when he was around 8 he spent a few days with us in Santa Cruz…walking into our bathroom with his toothbrush, he looked around for the toothpaste and not seeing it he asked where it was…I pointed to the bar of soap and said that this is what we use…he wet his brush and lathered it up. As he brushed his teeth with Dial soap he had the saddest look on his face…my Mother hearing all of the laughter from Ron and I came into the bathroom and was “MAD” at me for my little stunt.
Dotti was pretty young so we never got close as she was growing up. When I got out of the service, Billy, Ron and I worked together on a race car and spent a lot of time hanging out together….with our love for sports and for some golf, we always had a good time.
We also got to spend time with Dotti and her husband and got to know Dotti better…she shares a lot with her Dad…She’s a grumpy old sucker, with a heart of gold and a great sense of humor…I enjoy keeping in contact with her to this day, she’s a sweetheart.
Kenny was a few years older than I…we would play together at Grandma’s house but never got close until I got out of the Navy…I would go over to his body shop and hang out with him, his Dad and Billy. He was a pretty “KOOL” guy that always had a “Kustom Kar”. He was kind enough to paint my car…and fun to be around. I wish that I had spent more time learning the trade with him. One of the best things about moving to Arizona was the chance to be closer to Kenny…he is more like a brother than a cousin…love that guy.
Other than Pete and Ina Lee, I was closest to My Uncle Jack, Who I was named for. Jack was an upholsterer like his Dad…He, and his family, took us in when my Dad died…I always had a liking for him…he was a good guy.
Moving to San Francisco gave me a chance to spend time with Elizabeth and AL. Elizabeth was a very smart woman that was an amazing, talented person. I would marvel at how she could type away, at WAY over 100 words a minute transcribing court proceedings….and carry on a conversation as she did it. Al was a “CHARACTER”…he had a small used car lot with a trailer as an office...I would go there from time to time but it seemed as though the same cars were always there. He had a refrigerator well stocked with “Acme” beer. At one time Al was going to do business with the NY Yankee baseball legend, Joe Dimaggio shipping scrap metals to Japan but I never heard of it happening. I do remember seeing the photos of Elizabeth and Al having dinner with Joe and his LOVELY bride, Marilyn Monroe, at a fancy restaurant.
Years later, Al suffered a bad stroke that left him unable to communicate but seemed to be alert…he was also paralyzed. Irene and I asked them if they would like to go to the “Temple Pageant” in Oakland with us and they said they’d love to. It was a GREAT performance and while I was gone to get the car, Elizabeth told Irene that being on the Temple property and having watched the pageant, she doubted that there was another place on earth that one could feel like they were in the presence of God. She then asked if there would be a way to learn more about the “Mormon Church”.
They took the lessons and asked to be baptized. I was asked to do the baptism and felt it an honor to do so. Prior to the service Almon, Al’ son, approached me and let me know of his concern for his dad’s health…as we were about to completely submerge him in the water. He told me that, being paralyzed and unable to speak, Al was terrified of water…He said that he bathed him everyday and that he was only in a few inches of water but he was really scared of it. In the back of my mind I was wondering if AL really did know what he was doing but Elizabeth assured me that he knew what he was doing and wanted to do it. I found an empty room and brought my concerns to Father in Heaven and asked for wisdom…I assured Almon that everything would be fine.
I baptized Elizabeth then walked to the side of the font and had the Elders bring Al to me, as I took this frail man in my arms to proceed with the baptism, I looked into his eyes and “KNEW” that he understood what was going on and wanted to do it. He was completely comfortable and relaxed in my arms as I performed the ordinance. What a wonderful experience to serve those I love in that way, and to witness the power of the gospel in peoples lives.
On to others..Uncle Bill, the first born to my Grandparents…Bill was a very humble man that I would only see at holiday times…he would drive up with his family in his big Cadillac but seemed unaffected by his success. When he was a youth in Coffeyville, Kansas he would wave to the engineers on the train as it passed their house. He took a job as a clerk in the railroad office and learned how to purchase things in other areas and sell them in town. He wrote that he was able to make pig “Slop” and sell it locally and make some money. He bought a flour mill and would go home at night and experiment with creating foods…he came up with a pancake mix and a breakfast cereal made of oats…he marketed them under the name “CHEERIO”. He sold the name and the products to General Mills for around $5,000.
Somehow I remember being told that purchased warehouses in the Midwest and had a truck line. When the Federal Government set up the ICC to control the working areas of the country for trucking companies, Bill’s line was “Grandfathered” meaning that they could go anywhere in the country that they wished to. He was approached by a farm implement company to be their distributor in the surrounding states because he could warehouse their equipment and move it to the clients for them. He sold his interests in the Midwest and moved to LA. There, I believe he made some money investing in movies. (I heard that but don’t know any of the particulars.”)…I know that when he was in his seventies an escalator company hired him as a vice president to something for them…a pretty sharp guy. His wife was also down to earth and a real sweet lady…Sadly they lived in LA and I didn’t get to know my cousins like I would have liked to, but they were really nice. His daughter Beverly and her husband George (Underwood) were nice enough to come to my 60th birthday party here in Mesa. Good folks.
Uncle Jiggs (George) was a pretty nice guy that had an upholstery shop in the Burlingame area south of SF. He was an artist that was once offered a job as a political cartoonist by a newspaper, but his wife wouldn’t let him take the job. (??) In my interactions with her I was less than impressed with her. Didn’t know their children…but my Dad and Mom seemed to like their son Bill.
Uncle Ken…A REAL nice guy that was always friendly to me. He was a body and fender man that taught the trade to his son, Kenny. He was married to Frances and they always seemed to be cheerful. I thought Kenny’s sister Joanie was nice.
Uncle Charlie…Charlie was married to a lady named Anne…she was an artist originally from France. Charlie was always FUN to be around. He loved to tell stories and loved to hunt and play cards …other than cards, hunting, raising and training hunting dogs …Charley didn’t do much else.
Uncle Don…Don was a hustler…he would be hired by furniture companies to go into their stores and conduct “Sales” for them….he’d write their newspaper ads, go through the store mark up everything 25% then mark them down a bit and run the store for them for a week or so. When I was very young my mom and Dad took me to a ballgame in Oakland to watch Don’s team Play the Oakland Oaks (A team in the Pacific Coast league) Don was the opposing teams catcher….I remember Dad telling me that Don was so slow he’d have to hit a home run to get a single. Don was always nice to me though…
Uncle Jack (John Emory) was in the Navy during WW2. He was the skipper of a minesweeper, I believe in the area around Panama. I was told that I had real curly hair as a small child and that my Mother loved my curls…When Jack came home from the war he took one look at me….grabbed me and my Dad and they took me to a barber.
(Thanx Jack) As I said, Jack would follow his Father into the upholstery business. When my Dad died Jack was pretty nice to be there for us.
My Aunt Lillian….This lady made the BEST pies in the WORLD. She was also very nice.
I’ve already talked about Elizabeth and Ina Lee.
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My Fathers side of the Family...
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I don't have many recollections of my Dad's side....my uncle Urban was a career officer in the Army (I believe that he he retired as a Colonel) and had, I think, around 5 kids...I only met them for a few hours at most once or maybe twice....I know that he was married a number of times so their kids probably stayed with their Moms...Don't have a clue how to get a hold of any of them.
I believe that it was in 1956, Urban came to visit us in SF...and I got to spend a little time with him...seemed like a pretty sharp guy. He was in Army Intelligence in W. Germany at the time...some of his work was as a Currier going between E. and W. Germany.
During WW2 he got a "Field Commission" as a 1st lieutenant...when he got home from the war the only job he could find was as a cab driver...so he went back into the Army..he was told he had a certain amount of time to get a degree so he did correspondence courses and got his degree from the University of Maryland. Later he was in charge of training at Fort Ord army boot camp...Ronnie was trained there under him....when he got out of the Army I believe that he went
to work for Bank of America.
My Dad had an uncle named Manuel that came to our house a few times....he was the head chef at the Claremont hotel in the hills separating Berkeley an Oakland...a very old and classy hotel.
My Grandmother (Who died in the 1920's, I think) had a sister named Phoebe..... There was also a woman that I met a few times named Mary Lanham, don't know how she was related but she was. She seemed nice.
Any memories of my Grandfather are really vague..... all that I know is...he was a barber and he died while he was living in Santa Cruz.
So there it is....A great family that I was privileged to become part of.